Here are two short letters. One from an introvert to an extravert (and vice-a-versa) They are shared here to add a little insight into the experiences each has of the other.
Firstly, some background to these letters.
Introversion is about energy
Since the time of the ancient Greeks, people have tried to come up with ways to describe our personality differences. By differences, we mean our default preferences and tendencies. Physically, an example is being right or left-handed. We can write with either hand, but it feels much more natural, and we do it a lot better, with our preferred hand.
In the same way, our personality preferences can be quite distinct. Probably the oldest of these personality concepts is extraversion and introversion.
Introversion and extraversion relate to where we get our energy from. In other words, it’s about how we recharge our minds and our emotional centre.
Introverts: people who are inwardly focused tend to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. Unlike Extraverts, Introverts can quickly exhaust their mental energy reserves, and they will only tolerate such situations so long before they yearn for solitude and quiet. Like they are battery charged, they carry their power with them.
Extraverts: people who are outwardly focused gain energy from other people. They love the noise and colour. Extroverts actually find their energy is sapped when they spend too much time alone. They recharge by being socially engaged. It’s like they need to plug into an external source of power.
|Inwardly focused:||Outwardly focused:|
|Process best thoughts alone||Process best thoughts with others|
|Focus on depth||Focus on breadth|
|Prefer writing to talking||Prefer talking to writing|
|Think and process, then talk||Talk, then think and process|
|Energised by time alone||Energised by time with others|
In short, those who are outwardly focused have an inner need to seek out lots of external stimulation to keep them going. Whereas those who are inwardly focused need to escape the same stimulation or they will run out of juice.
Here are the letters. Maybe you can identify with one or both of them?